Every duty which is bidden to wait returns with seven fresh duties at its back.
- Charles Kingsley
- Charles Kingsley
One of the first steps in the adoption process is completing the required paperwork necessary to move to the next step. Your adoption decision may have come from your heart, but there are several practical aspects to the adoption process. The adoption process is actually a series of steps and rules that have been laid down by the judicial system and government agencies to ensure that all the parties involved in the adoption process are protected. This includes your family as well.
Many prospective couples are put off by the amount of paperwork that confronts them right at the beginning of the adoption process. They go into a tizzy and wonder if they will ever get through the mountain of paperwork needed to proceed to the next step. In fact, they may even begin to wonder if it is worth all the trouble to become parents. But, look at it this way – even couples with biological children go through many ordeals before they hold their baby in their hands. There are the constant medical visits, stress of labor and delivery, and the financial expenses that come with it all. The point is, whether you are an adoptive or birth family, you have to go through certain uncomfortable and taxing situations before you get to enjoy your baby. Your mountain of paperwork is certainly passable!
Here are some of the reasons why couples put off completing the adoption paperwork:
- They feel uncomfortable providing personal information about their finances and their medical history
- They feel anxious or even indignant that they have to provide all this information in order to become a parent. They may even feel 'singled out', not realizing that millions of couples have gone through the same process successfully
- They just have a tendency to procrastinate!
Of all the reasons, procrastination is probably the worst because it means you are simply avoiding it because you don't want to do it. The great baseball player of the 1920's Al Simmons couldn't achieve the biggest milestone in baseball history – the 3,000-hit plateau. Why? As he approached retirement, he realized he could've made the mark had he spent more time at the line up instead of avoiding it because he was too lazy to play! Every God-given day offers us many chances and opportunities to make a difference in our lives and in the lives of those around us. As far as adoption is concerned, what you do in a single day can determine your entire adoption journey.
Many couples find adoption paperwork to seem daunting. But when they are done with it, they wonder what the fuss was all about! The paperwork and home study process may seem drag on but keep in mind that it will bring you one step closer to that blessed moment when you bring your baby home and become 'mom and dad'.